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最近有個女孩因為跟男友出現了信任的問題後,再加上種種問題累積沒有解決,好像確定最後只能分手了QQ

很多遠距離戀愛都會面臨不安全感與信任的問題,但是見不到面的兩人到底要怎麼做才能讓彼此都能安心?恬恬跟Fabian討論後發現首先也最重要的就是要把你生活會發生的大小事跟彼此分享,讓你們不會因為距離而對於彼此的朋友圈或是生活不熟悉,當你完全了解另一半的日常作息與活動後,也不會變得疑神疑鬼猜測對方現在在做什麼,或是為何這時間沒有傳訊息給我等等的事發生....

 

恬恬了解滿多女孩都會有不安全感,尤其面對遠距離看不到對方,會有女生想知道男友任何的帳號密碼,知道他所有的行蹤,也許你只是想知道他跟誰聊天,但直接詢問對方或是用關心的方式問他們今天跟誰出去或跟誰聊天了,這樣會不會比較顧慮到男生的感受也比較尊重他們?愛你們的男友絕對會給你帳號密碼(Fabian想給但我不想要:P),但一陣子後男生會不會覺得沒有自由的空間?尤其當女生還是會一直問東問西的話,男生們會不會反彈?(以上是我們倆的想法,也許大家會有更好的意見)

恬恬跟Fabian從來沒有信任問題,因為我打從心底感受的到這男人很愛我,所以我不曾擔心他會做傷害我的事情,而且他的朋友我幾乎全見過了:P 我們最開始談戀愛時,就跟彼此說了生活作息跟活動,所以常常我根本不用問就知道Fabian在做什麼,他還以為我裝針孔攝影機監視他勒XDDD

對於怎麼處理遠距離情侶們信任的方式,恬恬昨晚想破頭還是沒有什麼建設性的答案,可以詢問大家你們覺得情人們該怎麼做,才能消除彼此的不安全感或不信任呢?

*祝福大家可以遇到對的人,永遠甜蜜蜜 :)女孩兒你也加油喔!

 

Trust between couples heart 表情符號

Recently a girl was fighting with her bf about trust issues. They also have some other problems which they haven't solved so at the end they might break up.

Many couples which have long-distance relationships are facing trust problems or insecurity. What can they do to reduce the feeling of insecurity? Fabian and I discussed about it and we think that couples should share everything with each other and be honest to each other. This way one can know the other person better and feel closer to them. When one knows the daily routines and activities the other person does, he/she won't be insecure. You won't be worried what your lover might be doing right now or why at this moment he/ she doesn't text you.

I know that some girls feel insecure, especially when you don't see your lover in person. So they might want to know their bf's passwords of his social accounts or email. This way girls can track their bf and know who they are talking to. Maybe asking their bfs directly what they are doing as a way to care about their life and show they respect them might be better than doing it secretly. Or what do you think? If your bf really loves you, I'm sure they will still give their passwords to you. But maybe after a while they might think it's too much and they don't have their freedom. But thats only our thoughts and experience. Maybe you have a better way!

Do you have any constructive or helpful way to reduce distrust and insecurity between couples?

For me and Fabian, we never had trust issue. I can notice and feel how much Fabian loves me. So I never worry that he will do anything to hurt me. Especially I've met almost his friends tongue 表情符號 At the beginning when we were together, we shared with each other our daily life. So I don't need to ask what is he doing now becuz I knew already. Sometimes he thinks that I set up a invisible camera on him hehehhe

 

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  • Tiffany Huang
  • 恬恬哈囉~
    原本我從沒想過跟外國人在一起
    但是因為一次參展(在台灣)
    我們認識了
    他是墨西哥人.原本在台灣讀碩士學中文
    因為太喜歡台灣了~所以留在台灣工作!
    他問了我好多次想要我當他的女朋友
    (我27歲、他26歲)
    但是因為我會的英文很有限(雖然"基本溝通"還可以)
    所以害怕溝通上有障礙
    另外我們是在如此不同的環境下長大
    很多想法觀念不同
    讓我一直很猶豫不敢答應跟他交往
    所以我想問問妳跟Fabian一開始交往的時候
    是怎麼跨越這些障礙的呢?
  • Hello Tiffany,

    其實我覺得異國戀最開始最大的障礙只會是語言不通的問題,因為最基本的原則就是要多溝通,只要遇到問題就是攤開來講,到後來越認識彼此跟彼此的文化後,我們都會試著去調整自己原本的生活習慣,一起去找個兩人都能接受的模式一起生活~ 所以先別擔心你可能英文不夠好或是文化差異的問題,只要記得別把不愉快的事情悶住不說就好了 :) 大致上其實障礙不多的!你如果還有問題也可以來我們的專頁找我私訊,因為這邊最近比較沒有上來整理,怕晚了幾天回復你 >< https://www.facebook.com/tinaundfabian

    恬恬 於 2015/07/16 15:43 回覆